Not about to meet friends, I do not have too many ideas, I admire others and meet friends, I think it is a very romantic and beautiful things, meet friends can increase mutual understanding and trust, unmarried men and women can even through the meeting led to a happy happy marriage, is that married men and women can meet consolidate two personal friendship, life becomes blue or confidante. However, and friends to meet this thing once specific to my life, I have a strange and unbelievable feeling, because I know how it is an almost boring and extravagant waste.
First, meet me and waste your time.
Modern people's life and survival pressures are generally very heavy, very not easy to catch up with the holiday or leisure vacation, this time is so precious. As my friends see me than you should have more important things to do, for example, go home to see you keep your hair with your parents; for example, day and night for your work but never complained about love, for instance, take your child to make a commitment to you for a long time but never broken promises: long distance travel. For example, I invite you friends together shallowly, sing while drinking. When you wholeheartedly to do these things, the kind of long lost warmth and touched will make you feel very warm and down-to-earth, you will know that all the blood and sweat of your pay is not in vain, you are the harvest of love and care of their loved ones, in the eyes of the parents is filial son in you; in front of his wife, you are a considerate husband; in front of the children, you are kindly father; in the presence of friends, you are a successful man. All of this is not moved you are seeking for? All of this, not all indicate that you are a real man, is a mainstay of the family, can never be replaced? I can know that you are proud, so you don't let me down, "but the pro parents, but in a couple, treat your family, make good use of the time to spend time with them, is the best comfort, not how great I am, I didn't have more noble, just because I am also a wife, the mother of a child. I don't want to waste your precious time you won on me, so I will feel like a sinner, the heart will have a lot of guilt and anxiety.
Second, meet me and waste your energy.
Do you work on the things that have been enough for you to worry about, the interpersonal relationship is enough to make you a headache, take advantage of this rare rest, you should relax yourself, but also their true colors, not hypocrisy, without affectation, cry or laugh or waking, drunk these are good, with your mood, you will be on your own, you can be sloppy, lazy, careless about dressing can, can do whatever they want to live their own holiday. But if you come to see me, and in your job what two? You need to clean clothes; active thinking; you should also be refined and courteous. You carefully consider: put the freewheeling days however, want to torment me, this is a matter of how things are you The loss outweighs the gain., my sincere friend, I am afraid of you to see me in the brain and straining every nerve, if you put all their energy in my body, to finally get more nervous more tired. So this is not what I want to see you, and don't waste your limited energy in my body, you have too many things to do, every one is more meaningful than to see me. I know that you are always mature, has always been a decent.
Third, I met and waste your feelings.
I know you really love me, love my understanding, I love whispering voices, I also know you want to see is that in order to find the long lost romantic feelings. However, you should know: across the network, through the trials of a long journey heart is transparent, we can see each other, but once, we really have to face that day, I could not deviate. I have a family, a husband, a child, and you have been shouldering the heavy responsibility, or you are alone, I can not with you one night, I cherish myself, cherish everything we have now, I could not put their lives at risk, do you regret to end students regret. My husband for I have deserted, I do not want to hurt him. But, I also have a very traditional and conservative ideas: girls can generally cast married women, should abide by the women. So, when you came all the way to the front of me when I am in addition to friendship, even a ceremonial embrace may not give you. My face so rational and wise, you still feel the need to see me? No man is perfect, I'm just an ordinary woman, you don't need to waste the feelings of There is not much left. on me, don't blame me the cold, don't blame me for the unfeeling, don't say I'm too cruel reality, after all, we are no longer young.
Fourth, meet me to waste your money.
"There are friends from afar awfully, but I didn't have enough money to entertain you. My money in the stock market and, set in the fund, the only remaining still in the countryside in a vote. I in addition to more than one thousand dollars a month for living expenses, no money, I have to do to your landlord should, however, be the most real, I really powerless. Since I am not good for you, then I will not accept any invitation to you, your money is you a hard-earned, your lover is a carefully saved. I have no loss of conscience to numb the point, use your hard-earned money to lead a gay life, with your family money to money. Even if you really do women spend money like water Jiacaiwanguan, I will not let you in, I wasted a penny, because I am your friend forever, never be your woman. For so many years I used to support myself, so you don't have to waste my money, this is an exchange of equivalent age, do not expect what a miracle, I do not have the goods, you can buy. This car travel back and forth, you can save to buy some nourishment for your parents, so that they can stay with you for a few years; buy some beautiful fashion for your wife, your insipid life add some color; buy some fashion toys for your child, let him feel in your life the family was very happy very happy.
I don't know these can become I don't see the reason I do not know my friends can not understand my heart, I just want to say a word: for an impossible or for a impossible person, you should never waste your time, energy, love, money, that is to own a do not pay attention to others is also not cherish.
I don't expect all my friends agree my reasons, but these are my words from the bottom of the heart, have nothing to do with anyone, just about my own mood.
关于不和网友见面，我并没有太多的想法，我很羡慕别人和网友见面，我觉得那是一种很浪漫很美丽的事情，网友见面可以增加彼此的了解和信任，未婚的男女甚至可以通过见面促成一桩美满幸福的姻缘，就是已婚的男女也可以通过见面巩固两个人的友情，成为一生的蓝颜或红颜知己。但是，和网友见面这件事情一旦具体到我的生活当中，我就有一种怪怪的，不可思议的感觉，因为我很清楚地知道，那是怎样一种近乎于无聊和奢侈的浪费。
第一，和我见面浪费你的时间。
现代人的生活和生存压力普遍都很沉重，好不容易赶上单位放假或者休年假，这段时间是多么的弥足珍贵。作为我的朋友的你应该有比见我更重要的事情去做，比如，回家看望生你养你的白发双亲；比如，陪陪日夜为你操劳却从无怨言的爱人，再比如，带你的孩子去进行一次你承诺了好久却从未兑现的诺言：长途旅行。又比如，邀请你久违的哥们们小聚浅酌，对酒当歌。当你全心全意地去做这些事情的时候，那种久违的亲切和感动会让你感觉到无比的温暖和踏实，那时你会知道，你付出的所有心血和汗水都没有白费，你正在收获着亲人的爱与关怀，在父母面前你是孝顺的儿子；在妻子面前，你是体贴的老公；在孩子面前，你是慈祥的父亲；在亲友面前，你是成功的男人。这一切，不都是你为之感奋为之追求的吗？这一切，不都标志着你是一个真正的男子汉，是一个家族的中流砥柱，永远无可取代的吗？我为能结识这样的你而感到骄傲，所以，你不要让我失望，“亲不过父母，近不过夫妻”，善待你的家人，好好地利用这段时间陪陪他们，就是对我最大的安慰，不是我有多伟大，也不是我有多高尚，只是因为我也是一个妻子，一个孩子的母亲。推己及人，我不希望你在我的身上浪费你得之不易的宝贵时间，那样我会觉得自己像个罪人，心中会有很多的愧疚和不安的。
第二，和我见面浪费你的精力。
平时你工作上的事情已经够让你操心的了，人际关系也够让你头痛的了，趁着这难得的休息时间，你应该好好地放松一下你自己，还自己本来面目，不必虚伪，不必做作，哭也好，笑也好，醒也好，醉也好，这些都随你的心情，都由你自己做主，你可以邋遢，可以懒惰，可以不修边幅，可以为所欲为地过自己的假期。但是如果你来见我的话，和你在工作中有什么两样呢？你要衣冠整洁；还要思维活跃；你要彬彬有礼；还要能说会道。你仔细地考虑一下：放着随心所欲的日子不过，非要到我这里来自讨苦吃，这是一件多么得不偿失的事情，我是你真诚的朋友，我很怕你为了见我而绷紧大脑中的每一根神经，怕你把所有的精力都放在我的身上，到最后把自己弄得更加紧张更加疲惫。这些不是我希望看到的，所以，你不要在我身上浪费你有限的精力，你的身边有太多的事情要你去做，每一件都比见我更有意义。我知道，你一向都是成熟稳重的，一向都是很有分寸的。
第三，和我见面浪费你的感情。
我知道你很喜欢我，喜欢我的善解人意，喜欢我的软语呢喃，也知道你想见我是为了寻回那失去已久的浪漫感觉。但是，你应该知道：隔着网络，隔着万水千山，我们的心是透明的，可以彼此看穿，可一旦我们真有面对面的那一天，我不可能越雷池半步。我有家、有老公、有孩子，而你也已担负着沉沉的责任，抑或你真的是孤身一人，我也不可能和你一夜风流，我很珍惜我自己，也很珍惜现在拥有的一切，我不可能以身犯险，做下令自己后悔终生后悔的事情。我老公为了我已经众叛亲离，我不想做伤害他的事情。而且，我更有一个很传统和保守的观念：少女时代可以普遍撒网，嫁为人妇，就该恪守妇道。所以，当你千里迢迢地来到我面前的时候，我除了友情之外，连一个礼节性的拥抱都不可能给你。面对我如此的理性和明智，你还觉得有见我的必要吗？人无完人，我只是个再普通不过的女人，你没必要把所剩无几的感情浪费在我的身上，别怪我的冷漠，也别怪我的绝情，也别说我太现实太残忍，毕竟，我们不再年轻。
第四，和我见面浪费你的金钱。
“有朋自远方来不亦乐乎”，但我没有足够的资金来招待你。我的钱在股市里押着，在基金里套着，仅剩下的还在乡下的地里投着。我除了每个月一千多块钱的生活费之外，没有别的进项了，你来我必须要一尽地主之宜，但是，说句最实在的话，我真的是有心无力。既然我不能很好的款待你，那我也不会接受你的任何邀请，你的钱也是你一分一分辛辛苦苦赚来的，也是你的爱人一分一分仔仔细细积攒的。我没有丧失良知到麻木的地步，用你的血汗钱去花天酒地，用你养家糊口的钱去纸醉金迷。即使你真的家财万贯，不惜为女人挥金如土，我也不会让你在我身上浪费一分钱，因为我只是你永远的朋友，永远不会成为你的女人。这么多年来我习惯了自食其力，所以，你不必为了我浪费金钱，这是一个等价交换的时代，不要期待会有什么奇迹出现，我手中没有商品，你也无从购买。这一来一往的车旅费，你大可以节约下来为你的父母买一些营养品，让他们可以多陪你几年；为你的妻子买一些漂亮的时装，给你们平淡的生活添一些色彩；为你的孩子买一些时尚的玩具，让他感觉到生活在你们的家庭他很幸福很快乐。
我不知道以上这些能不能成为我不见网友的理由我也不知道我的网友能不能理解我的苦心，我只想说一句话：对于一件不可能做到的事情或者对于一个不可能得到的人，你永远不要去浪费你的时间、精力、感情、金钱，那是对自己的一种不重视，也是对别人的不珍惜。
我并不苛求所有的朋友都认同我的理由，但这些都是我的肺腑之言，与任何人都无关，只是和我自己的心情有关。
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